Relationships are possibly the source of our greatest happiness. And they can demand quite a lot from us. Our intimate relationships are the place where we are most challenged to reflect upon our personal limitations, and where it may be most possible to grow and heal.
But despite our desire for deep and fulfilling connections, couples can find themselves relating to one another in ways that are unsatisfying, or which create distance, frustration, or pain.
Each of us brings a unique set of experiences, expectations and attitudes to our relationship. Understanding and calibrating our differences, and fine tuning the balance in the relationship requires sensitivity, an investment of our time, energy and focus, and the flexibility to adapt as each partner grows and changes.
Couples therapy works to create a relationship that feels good for both of you. Depending on the issues that have surfaced, it may help for partners to;
Understand the attachment style that each of you developed based on your earliest relationship experiences, and the template that influences your perceptions and responses
Explore the underlying dynamic within the relationship, and get attuned to each partner's needs
Communicate in ways that enable each partner to feel heard and understood
Create safety, trust and the ability to open up and connect with one another
Make decisions and negotiate conflict in healthy ways
Repair and resolve past issues that may still affect you or your relationship
Re-discover or deepen a sense of joy, connection, and intimacy
It can be challenging to address relationship issues, and for this reason many couples wait too long before seeking support. However the earlier we understand ourselves and our partner, the better our chances of connecting in ways that create a healthy, happy relationship.
Our approach to relationships informed by theory and research in attachment and the science of relating (interpersonal neurobiology), and specialised training in the area of relationships including including Emotion Focussed therapy, Family Therapy, the Gottman Relationship method, and a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT).